Friendship broken since 6-30-08?

stupid fight over some crazy psyco who I wanted removed from a league. I was lied to hurt by my best friend. who cowered to the psyco's crying. I was promised things and then my BF found others to cover and left me hanging. I got mad and made an ultimatum. well it didnt work. We have spoken once since all this 2 weeks ago ...I thought things were worked out but I havent heard from her since. Too many other interfering friends maybe...she just might be to dam busy to stop for this, but I am devistated. It has effected my personal life with my partner who says to let it all go and foget her and everyone else but I just can't .......oh what to do . I want so desperatly go and see her but then again I dont want to give in .....I was hurt bad and still feel hurt ..her apoligy seemed aloof...beer is always a factor here ..I get somewhere when she is drunk but nothing when she is sober.......I want to resolve this.......what to do?